Is it better to be alone?

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What's the point of having friend or family wouldn't this be better, being alone. After all you gain pain either way, am I correct. Being alone you could probably understand how the pain would start; from being lonely and sad to have no body to care for the loner. [Loner: I don't mean it as the only term to define someone having no friends. It can also be someone who has no friend to begin with or having no family and so on... etc.] For having friends your pain will come from past memories or a conflict between each other. All conflict in the daily lives of childrens are all negative comment. Well at my school there are many making fun comment. Even if not, I know that there can not be a school without conflicts. So how would we know when a person could get offended by the slightest comments we make. They could possibly never become friends again. Even if it's not through friends there is always conflict through a relationship. Therefore, when someone is building that relationship they will only serve consequences when death comes. Consequences as in - Since you'll have to see your closest friend past away is very hard. Even knowing that you have both lived for a good long age wouldn't change the feeling of knowing someone valuable past away. So I believe that being alone could be more acceptable; than having to build a relationship with people that will cause conflicts as relationship growns. Than realize their friend death which is most likely unbearable to handle. Therefore, I think being lonely would feel a little better than being with or to connected with friends family, love ones, bf,gf, etc... Since the feeling of loneliness will always prevent people into building that relationship with others. So wouldn't this feel better - to be rejected and seeing yourself trying to obtain people to be with. If you really think of it deeply, do you understand where I'm coming with this? Like can loners feel so much sorrowness if they are to keep trying to be with others and always be rejected.

Quote "There may be things people will not understand; until they have gone through them, for themselves."
I left this quote the way it was. It doesn't connect to this subject but the first time I wrote it I added it. Therefore, I am planning to just leave it here.

Sorry it was hard to understand, I was an idoit and poor educated when I was younger. However, I think I made my point straight forward now. I know, I ramble a lot on this thread and every page mention stuff about me. I'll tell you I was obviouisly upset that day. I even posted I was a loner. Yes I am a loner but this does not mean that we can not have a debate against me; if most people have someone to be with. This is just how I see life so I though it would be educational to learn and experience more in life. Obviously, I'm still young well now not but I still have a lot to learn. However, let begin hearing your opinion toward this topic.
Lastly I have a strong believe that not many people could see my side because obviously, I see this very well; human may be afraid to tell the truth about who they are and rather not post at all or post but looking at it another way. However this is only my assumtions to how I observe people who feel the same way as I, loner.

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Anyone?

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umm, anyone like to reply, I would like to see some response to this.

[TheViolletteHeart]

To use a famous quote, "It is better to have loved and lost to have never loved at all."

Personally, I love having friends. Family, not as much. Being alone is good sometimes, but it can also drive you mad.

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Originally Posted by TheViolletteHeart

To use a famous quote, "It is better to have loved and lost to have never loved at all."

Personally, I love having friends. Family, not as much. Being alone is good sometimes, but it can also drive you mad.

Ya i know, I haven't really truely experience a friend relation in school but some parent friend children, who I became friend with but now we haven't been talking for a few years. Not that I believe in this to much just a theory I think that may be true.

[xXx~Ai~xXx]

I believe it is better to be alone. Friends never last and family dies away. But we are all human we can't help but feel connected to ppl even when we don't want to

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Originally Posted by xXx~Ai~xXx

I believe it is better to be alone. Friends never last and family dies away. But we are all human we can't help but feel connected to ppl even when we don't want to

True, even myself right now being alone with no friend in this real world, I have always wanted to be acknowledge so I could be known as someone. Then again there may be people different from me. Who may think differently.

[xXx~Ai~xXx]

however no matter how much we want to be alone we also want to find someone we can be alone with, someone who would understand that way of thinking. Its hard to be that way but it's also easier. For example In highschool i was the kinda girl that hardly went out to the dances or parties or even the football games cuz that was never my thing, my friends would always go but i never really wanted such a connection with any of them. My cuzin on the other hand was the exact opposite. she would be out with her friends like every weekend and she would go to all the schools events, but now that she's in college everything is hard for her because its such a different environment, she's alone and doesn't know how to handle it whereas me, I am in my forte. I'm ok because i've always been alone and have always seen myself as a loner. It's still a double edged sword though. You have to find balance or else that lonliness will become dangerous, trust me...

[xXx~Ai~xXx]

Originally Posted by ベーゼル

True, even myself right now being alone with no friend in this real world, I have always wanted to be acknowledge so I could be known as someone. Then again there may be people different from me. Who may think differently.

being alone is lonely simple as that but it also make you see things differently because you have the time and peace needed to think hard on things. There is nothing wrong with being this way, i'm exactly the same i've never liked being around ppl but I wanted it so badly at the same time, its hard to understand ppl like us if you've never been there. Just know you've got someone who understands you a bit if you ever feel alone but want someone there, we can be alone together (no i'm not hitting on you lol I just wished someone would have told me that all those years ago, so now i'm telling you )

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Originally Posted by xXx~Ai~xXx

however no matter how much we want to be alone we also want to find someone we can be alone with, someone who would understand that way of thinking. Its hard to be that way but it's also easier. For example In highschool i was the kinda girl that hardly went out to the dances or parties or even the football games cuz that was never my thing, my friends would always go but i never really wanted such a connection with any of them. My cuzin on the other hand was the exact opposite. she would be out with her friends like every weekend and she would go to all the schools events, but now that she's in college everything is hard for her because its such a different environment, she's alone and doesn't know how to handle it whereas me, I am in my forte. I'm ok because i've always been alone and have always seen myself as a loner. It's still a double edged sword though. You have to find balance or else that lonliness will become dangerous, trust me...

That why I make my own emotions, despite of other who say negative comment to me and bully. Yeah it's true what you said but, if you do know this feel of loneliness you would always want to become like those highschool people who go out every day just to be fit in to a modern kid. I have never been in your cousin path way so I don't know, and always that could be different some people do stay friend for a long period of time though anger and hatred will occur during those time.

[xXx~Ai~xXx]

thats why its important to find balance between the lonliness. You will have to learn how to separate your world from this one find a balance and then you can live with yourself, though it won't be easy at all. Finding balance is very hard, finding happiness is even harder but you're young you have a long way to go kiddo, and a lot of things to learn as well as I do. you never stop learning about yourself and others no matter how old or young you are

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Originally Posted by xXx~Ai~xXx

thats why its important to find balance between the lonliness. You will have to learn how to separate your world from this one find a balance and then you can live with yourself, though it won't be easy at all. Finding balance is very hard, finding happiness is even harder but you're young you have a long way to go kiddo, and a lot of things to learn as well as I do. you never stop learning about yourself and others no matter how old or young you are

Yeah happiness is hard to find, and I do feel quite balance. My life is almost just internet friend and working hard to fulfill my dream career. Learn about yourself and other exactly what? Like more knowledge in life?

[xXx~Ai~xXx]

learn more about yourself, you'd be surprised and on the way there you'll learn alot about other ppl too, and how many different ones are out there, mind wise

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Originally Posted by xXx~Ai~xXx

learn more about yourself, you'd be surprised and on the way there you'll learn alot about other ppl too, and how many different ones are out there, mind wise

uumm, ok.

[TheBlackChidori]

You sound just like me. I like it.

[xXx~Ai~xXx]

sorry i know i'm not making alot of sense but i can't really explain it, plus i had my wisdom teeth taken out soooo im hyped up on painkillers lol. though i know where you're coming from kid

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Originally Posted by TheBlackChidori

You sound just like me. I like it.

Really?

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Originally Posted by xXx~Ai~xXx

sorry i know i'm not making alot of sense but i can't really explain it, plus i had my wisdom teeth taken out soooo im hyped up on painkillers lol. though i know where you're coming from kid

It's okay after all I may have to experience thing myself to know the truth. At least someone can understand me.

[TheBlackChidori]

Originally Posted by ベーゼル

Really?

You havent read any of my rants, have you? =/

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Originally Posted by TheBlackChidori

You havent read any of my rants, have you? =/

I hear some from your forum, but probably not all. After all I am quite new, I have only join for at least a week.